Breaking up or end of the world in a small. Breaking up means the end of the world in miniature. Of course, only on the personal level. What, where and why questions that are part of individual’s life, whether we like it or not and break someone’s meaning of life into pieces of memories. Feeling of “butterflies in your stomach” is replaced with the feeling of cold anxiety.
But since the life goes on, and it’s healthy to breathe deeply, detailed analysis is more than necessary. In fact, it’s the only way to begin evaluating the past from some safe distance that allows us to see that wonderful period of our life as a historical fact. So, that way, complete empathy in the past is no longer possible.
What lies beneath the phrase “That’s not the real thing”? Though there is no particular explanation, we can offer some simple and some complex answers.
Passion that was the reason for starting relationship has faded away and psychological relationship between man and woman has not appeared. So, dead end street. No more euphoria, at least one partner no longer intends to continue the relationship in an emotional void that was created.
Material balance. Since people are generally calculated, apparently it cannot be a negligible factor. Where you live, what kind of attitude you have toward the property, and how much are you spending – all that and even more determines your style of life which your partner compares with their and seeks for parallels, contact points and passing. At the same time they are speculating the future, pondering whether differences / similarities be functional.
Opinion of others matters. In this case is not about what others really think about your partner, but what do you think they think! This includes your social status, social power connected with it and the degree of prestige and respect, which your environment attributes to you.
Opinion of his or hers family. it sounds strange, but these are the people with whom the hours of meetings should be fun. Otherwise, they should be avoided, because if you don’t get on well with them, it’s not encouraging for future of your relationship.
The mindset and world view. The key question is: is it really necessary to have the same opinion as your beloved one? Or is it better to let difference be a bridge between the two worlds, where the exchange of information functions as discovering yet unknown aspects of life.
Ethnicity. If we assume that every man is a world for himself, in this case the nationality makes that world even more different. You may start comparing personal characteristics with a national affiliation, which is not smart in any way.
Supremacy and subordination, women have (or pretend to have) the ability to induce a man to behave as they wish. In short, the woman becomes dominant in the relationship; a man is fighting for her affection. That’s why men fall under the influence of women, while women want security. If they get the feeling that their chosen individual isn’t a “real man”, he loses his value. What kind of man is a “real man” you might find some other way because there is no specific definition for that.
Number of sexual partners. It is well known that most of us have to change a number of sexual partners in order to eventually stabilize and settle up with one. Thus, they feel satisfaction with the partner, but the body just has not said its last, or the desire to experiment with others still strongly determines their life. In this case, you were simply in the wrong place at the wrong time – you’re not persons who will spend the rest of their lives together.
“It’s not the real thing” act as an excuse that sums up everything that should be said. Sweeping under the carpet remains a virtue, while dealing with a person apparently is the characteristic of the brave, honest and good people.
